I’m starting over. I reached a point where I knew I wanted to start new and fresh. But even thought I chose to start over, it’s still scary. It’s still uncomfortable.
It’s an awkward feeling being at the beginning again. Like I’m just learning how to walk when all I want to do is run.
But I made an intentional move to start again. And it’s okay to be here at the beginning and feel like I don’t know what I’m doing. It’s okay to start new and be starting at a blank canvas in front of me.
As scary as it feels, sometimes the best thing to do is start completely fresh. And it’s okay to feel uncomfortable. Because I know that the choice to start new will lead me to a magnificent new place in life.
It’s okay to be a beginner. Because marvelous happen when you choose to start new.
I’m know that when one door closes, another opens. But it’s sure uncomfortable waiting for that next door to open up.
It feels like I’m in a hallway, the space in-between in my life where I’ve left something behind but I’m still waiting for the next step.
And as much as I want the next door to open up now, I know there’s still a ways for me to walk down this hall. And as much as I jiggle the door knobs trying to find the one that will open, I know I can’t force it.
I know the next door will open up only when I’m ready for it. So I’m going to wait and trust that the door will open up soon. I just need to keep walking down the hall.
Another door will open soon. And it’ll open up exactly when it’s meant to.
For women uninitiated in the world of lifting, one fear remains paramount: lifting weights leads to bulk. But that fear is simply unfounded.
In fact, lifting weights can burn fat and help you go from looking thin but soft to fit, trim and toned.
Here’s how lifting weights can help you burn fat:
So, now that you know this, where do you start? What size weight do you choose? Choose the weight that feels comfortable to you. It should allow for easy movement throughout the exercise and you should be able to perform the exercise correctly, with good form. Try 10 reps. If at the end of 10 reps you aren’t feeling tired or challenged, move up to a heavier weight.
What are you waiting for? Get lifting!
I have so many things.
So many things I want to do and accomplish. So many ideas and dreams and plans.
It’s exciting. All of it. But exciting as it all sounds, it also all feels so overwhelming. It all feels like it’s way too much.
And whenever my to-do list feels to big, I know there’s only one thing I need to do: clear my plate.
Because as much as I just want to add on without subtracting, it’s just not physically possible. Add to my plate without clearing some space first is what gets me stressed and burned out.
So I’m going to be intentional with what I say yes to and what I say no to. And when I make a little space, I’ll have more room for what I care about.
Make room for what matters. Clear your plate.
I was stuck in the weeds. I was fussing over the tiniest thing, the smallest moment, fixated on what wasn’t right and why it wasn’t working out perfectly.
And that’s when I knew I had to step back. That’s when I knew I had to get out of the minutiae and remember the big picture.
The big picture calms me down. The big picture helps me feel graceful. It helps me feel focused in the present and confident about the future.
The big picture reminds me that I’ve grown so much and I have so much more to grow, that I’ve been so many places and still don’t know where I’m going next.
Because the big picture is just that: big. Bigger than me, and bigger than problems of today. And a big old permission slip to stop worrying about the small things.
Remember the big picture. And remember what matters.
It’s hard to imagine what tomorrow will feel like.
Sometimes it’s hard to see beyond today. Sometimes I get that “stuck-in-a-rut” feeling where what I’m experiencing feels so permanent. Like how I am and how I feel and what I do is how it’s going to be for the days and weeks and months to come.
And it’s when I feel the most stuck that I remind myself that it will all change.
All I have to do is look back a year or even a month ago. It all has changed. I have changed. So there’s no point in me fretting over something that’s not going well today. Because it’s not my forever. It’s a transition.
One day, I’ll look back and laugh and wonder why I thought this one moment in time when I felt so stuck would last forever.
It all changes. And so will you.
Perhaps you’ve been there before (I know I have), you’ve worked hard and you notice that your clothes begin to fit more loosely. You may even need to go buy smaller sizes but that number on the scale stays the same or worse yet — it goes up! Curious. And frustrating.
A: Hi, Michele! This question is an important one, and one that I have heard numerous answers to (although even I am not sure which one most accurately answers this). For help in responding, we turned to clinical exercise physiologist Jeff Dolgan.
There’s something that I’ve been putting off for awhile. Something I’ve wanted to do for years. And I’m finally making it happen.
I’m writing a book. And not just any book: Wellness Coach Book.
When I think about what it’ll feel like to hold the final book in my hand, I’m beyond excited.
But when I think about putting together an entire book and trying to publish it? It feels beyond overwhelming.
So I’m taking my big, audacious goal and turning it into something bitesized. I’m not looking at it as “finish the book.” I’m looking at it one day at a time, one page at a time. Because that’s all a book is: a compilation of pages and drawings put together.
And with persistence and patience, those pages and my bitesized actions will add up to something huge.
Just take one bite at a time. And it’ll come together on it’s own.
Things felt messy. And not any old messy, but that frustrated kind of messy where all you want to do is find all the answers, fix all the issues and start over.
I was desperately trying to figure it out and untangle the mess I was in. But the harder I try to work out the kinks, the tighter the knots get.
When I fell stuck and ensnares like that, sometimes all I can do is let go. To relax and stop focusing on the tangles and let it all just untangle itself. Because sometimes trying to fix it just makes it worse. And it’s usually when I stop trying to pull all the strings that the strings loosen up.
Because patience and time are a lot better at untangling knots than I am.
It’ll untangle itself. Let the knots work themselves out.
I love doing things well. I love spending time and effort making things the best they can be.
The problem is when I spend all that energy on things that I shouldn’t be doing in the first place.
It’s easy to feel like I need to do an excellent job on something that really doesn’t need all my love and attention. And it’s the sneakiest form of procrastination.
But it was this quote from Gretchen Rubin stopped me in my procrastination tracks:
“The biggest waste of time is to do well something that we need not do at all.”
It’s not just about doing good work. It’s about doing the work that does the most good. It’s about doing the work that makes life better and me better. Because when I redirect my time and effort to what really matters, everything changes.
Do the work that does the most good. Because it’s the things that matter most that deserve your attention the most.